MARADI, Niger — He didn’t hit her. He didn’t yell. He didn’t cheat, as far as she knows. It was just that, less than two years into their marriage, Zalika Amadou’s husband had changed. He’d become far too neglectful and indifferent for a young woman who expected, well, more.
Her mother, who had gotten married at 14 to a stranger twice her age, couldn’t understand the fuss. She’d stuck with her husband for five decades until he died, and was appalled that young women these days didn’t do the same.
But for Ms. Amadou, who married at 16, simply having a husband was not enough. She never wanted to depend on a man in the first place. So, on a busy morning in Maradi, Niger, she sat in front of a judge at a crowded Islamic court on the sidewalk and asked for what young women across the region are seeking like never before: a divorce.
For centuries, women have been expected to endure bad marriages in many conservative pockets of West Africa. Divorce happened, but most often the husbands were the ones casting off their partners. Tradition has bound women so tightly that spouses are sometimes chosen for babies in the womb.
“It’s the end of the world when a husband and wife don’t stay together,” said Ms. Amadou’s mother, Halima Amadou.
But here in Niger, a place where women have less education, lower living standards and less equality with men than just about anywhere else in the world, a quiet revolution is playing out.
Many women like Ms. Amadou come to this sidewalk court every month to push for a divorce, frustrated not only by their husbands’ inability to earn a living during a time of economic hardship, but also because their basic views on relationships have changed.
They want to choose whom and when to marry, not be pushed into marriages like so many generations of women before them. They demand respect and, better yet, love, speaking openly of wanting a healthy sex life. And when their husbands fall short, women are the ones driving this new culture of breakups.
“Young women now go into marriages with certain expectations,” said Alou Hama Maiga, the secretary general of the Islamic Association of Niger. “If these expectations are not met at some point, then divorce is inevitable.”
The Islamic judge who presides over the street-side religious court in Maradi, Niger’s third-largest city, said that divorces initiated by women had doubled in the past three years, with nearly 50 women a month coming to end their marriages.
“These young women don’t want to suffer anymore,” said the judge, Alkali Laouali Ismaël. “There is a solution to their problems, and they know they can find it here.”
Lawyers, women’s associations, local officials and academics who study the region say the increase is happening across West Africa — in urban and rural, as well as Muslim and Christian, areas — as women assert more control over their relationships.
The total divorce rate is relatively stable or even declining slightly in some parts of West Africa, they note, but underneath that are huge changes in divorce patterns and society at large.
Women are more educated now and in some areas marry later in life, factors that academics say lead to more stable marriages. At the same time, more women are moving into cities and joining the work force, empowering more of them to discard bad marriages.
In the sweltering waiting room of the main courthouse in Dakar, the Senegalese capital, the benches outside a divorce judge’s chambers were packed with women like Ramata Sampy, a 27-year-old accounting and management student.
Her husband, a railroad worker, was insisting that she give up her schooling and move to his extended family’s home far outside the city. That wasn’t how she had envisioned married life.
“I thought we’d be together, work together and help each other,” she said.
Dakar’s Association of Female Lawyers said it now helped three times as many female clients seeking divorce as it did even just four years ago.
“Many women in Dakar are independent and have jobs and have money,” said Daouda Ka, a lawyer who handles divorce cases. “In the past, they were just tolerating bad marriages. Now, if it doesn’t work out, they leave.”
In Ghana, 73 percent of divorce cases handled by the Legal Aid Scheme of Greater Accra were filed by women in 2016-2017, a big shift from the past. Divorce, once considered taboo for conservative Christians, is being presented in some church sermons as a better option than ending up with domestic violence or adultery.
Across West Africa, people are pouring into cities from the countryside, leaving behind parents and local traditions. The push for women’s rights has expanded, with more nations signing on to international commitments to gender equality. Governments have passed laws against domestic abuse and discrimination against women, and many nations now have ministries of women’s affairs.
Access to the media has skyrocketed. In rural areas, women discuss marriage troubles on call-in radio shows. In major cities, women vent their relationship frustrations on social media.
In Nigeria, a Nollywood movie called “Wives on Strike,” about a group of women who band together against a bad husband and father, was so popular it spawned a sequel and a television series.
“Younger women realize that their lives do not have to end when their marriages end,” said Olajumoke Yacob-Haliso, a senior lecturer at Babcock University in Nigeria.
The new reality baffles many older people in Maradi, where Ms. Amadou sought her divorce, but the cultural shift is shouting all around them. Billboards, talk shows and even hip-hop lyrics remind young women of their rights as wives. Government-sponsored radio programs broadcast sermons teaching women that they have the right to leave failing relationships.
In the center of the city, girls sat outside a cluster of huts, plucking chickens by moonlight and gossiping about friends who had divorced. One of the girls’ aunts, Fatima Ida, 74, sat nearby, listening with a scowl.
Ms. Ida saw her husband for the first time on her wedding day and stayed with him for decades. She was sickened by all the divorce in her family: a young niece, two of her daughters, a granddaughter.
“What’s for sure is women nowadays, as soon as they feel pain, they leave their marriages,” she said.
Ms. Amadou spent her childhood in Maradi, a busy city of small shops and open-air markets ringed by clusters of farming villages.
It was at a wedding that a friend played matchmaker for Ms. Amadou, pointing out a man twice her age, Noura Issa, among the many guests.
Ms. Amadou hadn’t necessarily been looking for a husband. She was busy taking sewing classes that she had persuaded her family to pay for.
“I wanted to be able to support myself,” she said. “I didn’t want to have to rely on a man for money.”
Still, when her friend called the next day to ask whether Mr. Issa could visit her, Ms. Amadou agreed.
He assured her he would be an ideal husband: a professional tailor who could provide a nice life for her. He was kind, and even nice to her mother.
The couple married and moved into his home outside the city center. Soon after they were settled, Mr. Issa told her the sewing classes were a waste of money. He didn’t want her leaving the house.
But his tailoring business was struggling. Nigeria’s economic crisis had spread across the border to Maradi, a major trading center between the two countries.
Already impoverished, Niger has been particularly hard hit by the spillover of problems from Nigeria, including nearly 10 years of war with Boko Haram, the radical Islamist group that has torn through the region.
A few years ago Mr. Issa was earning the equivalent of nearly a day, sewing and hemming clothes. Suddenly, he couldn’t earn half that much.
In Maradi, the wartime economy has hurt nearly everyone.
Husbands often travel to look for work, historically to nearby Nigeria or sometimes farther afield. The name of the tradition shows how widespread it is: exodus.
But many areas in Nigeria are too dangerous now. Many men have been driven farther abroad, for greater lengths of time. Some don’t come home for years, adding to the strain on marriages.
“Husbands can’t support their wives the way they used to,” said Mr. Ismaël, the religious judge.
The economic problems are compounded in Niger because polygamy is so common. Men in the mostly Muslim nation can have up to four wives. The country also has the highest birthrate in the world, with women in Niger giving birth to seven children on average.
Mr. Ismaël says most of the women who come before his court seeking divorce cite financial problems.
One by one, in hourslong court sessions punctuated only by daily prayers, young women sit before Mr. Ismaël, their divorce cases squeezed in between land disputes and inheritance spats.
Mr. Ismaël is a kadi, the judicial representative of the head Islamic religious leader in the area. He is so respected that he hears cases from across a region of three million people, and sometimes from over the border in Nigeria. He has ruled over this court for 12 years, on call 24 hours a day.
But lately, divorces make up a growing part of his docket. And while he thinks all wives deserve to be treated well, the judge said he was troubled by the rising divorce rate.
“I’m always reluctant to grant divorces,” he said. “I’m trying to slow things down.”
The court proceedings draw spectators who ring the court four or five layers deep.
Ms. Amadou looked tiny sitting before the judge and the spectators towering over her — all men. She summed up her plea to the judge with one simple fact: After a year and a half of marriage, her husband no longer loved her. She wanted him to grant her a divorce.
Love wasn’t even a suggestion when her mother was married. Still, she sat there supportively as Ms. Amadou rattled off complaints: Her husband didn’t bring home food; he didn’t care about her when she was pregnant; he didn’t even visit her at the health center when she was in labor.
“I could have forgiven everything else,” she said. “But I was on the brink of childbirth and he didn’t come.”
Mr. Issa, her husband, couldn’t stay quiet any longer.
“She lies so much,” he said.
A few months into the couple’s marriage, Mr. Issa earned barely enough to survive, let alone buy his wife little extras.
He never had time to give her the tailoring lessons he promised, and they lived on the edge of town, far away from her mother. Mr. Issa wouldn’t let her leave home without permission.
Ms. Amadou was bored, and missed her friends. And she was stuck with an older man who had stopped doting on her.
Despite the changing mores, child marriage rates are among the highest in the world, and teenagers in Niger have more children than anywhere in the world, according to the United Nations.
Driving the early marriages is a fear that girls will shame their families by becoming pregnant before they wed. Some girls are even kept out of school over those worries.
“A girl must be married to avoid being in trouble,” said Laouali Oubandawaki Iro, the village chief of Giratawa, a town on the outskirts of Maradi, explaining the area’s traditions. He is in his early 60s. Two of his wives are teenagers.
Parents also have a financial incentive. In Niger, daughters in some areas are traded by poor families desperate for a dowry payment.
But the push to limit child marriage has helped shift attitudes. In recent years, aid groups have poured in to alleviate poverty and stem population growth by focusing on child and forced marriages. Local groups and Niger’s government have joined in.
Across Niger, imams attend workshops on women’s rights. School curriculums include lessons on the benefits of waiting to marry. In rural areas, the government and Unicef have assigned representatives to mediate between families and girls who rebel against marriage.
“In the past, girls didn’t dare refuse to marry,” said Sani Bakoye, one of the child protection workers, in a tiny village of Inkouregaou. “Now, they are daring.”
Zeinoura Mahissou, 16, from a village two hours from Maradi, was beaten by her father after she refused to marry an older man.
A member of the government’s child protection program paid a visit to the home and encouraged her parents to drop the idea. Eventually they relented, promising to reimburse the man for the dowry.
“My dad is still mad at me because I made him lose money,” she said.
In Maradi, young girls cycle into a weathered building to talk about abusive husbands, jealous co-wives, overbearing mothers-in-law — and unfulfilled sex lives.
Skimpy bikinis made only of plastic beads hang on the walls. Lotions and oils line the shelves. One young woman arrived for counseling from the organization, called Dynamic Women, saying she had followed the instructions to rub oil on herself and sit naked in front of her husband. Still, he wasn’t interested.
“Many women come here to complain,” said Ms. Rakia Modi, a religious leader who created the center three years ago and has counseled women for nearly two decades. “Ten years ago, women didn’t know their rights. They thought they were just stuck in a marriage, be it good or bad.”
At the center, Amsatou Idi, 24, said she and her friends had started trading religious VHS tapes with sermons on how to deal with bad marriages. The tapes said that “women have the right to be treated well by their husbands,” she said.
Ms. Idi demanded a divorce after she came home to find another woman in her house. One friend advised her to calm down.
“I said: ‘I’m not going to calm down. He doesn’t treat me right,” she said. “I need affection.”
In Ms. Amadou’s case, she spent most of the day in the house, alone, finding company in her radio. She was a regular listener of a soap opera with women’s rights themes produced by the government and Unicef. She found herself relating to a character whose husband had mistreated her and who discussed her relationship with others on the show.
“They’d been saying that husbands just don’t care about their wives — and that was my problem,” she said. “My friends pushed me to stand up for my rights.”
Ms. Amadou took her friends’ advice and decided to get a divorce. She figured that her case was clear-cut when she went to the sidewalk court.
But the judge told the couple to go home and try to work it out one more time. If they still wanted a divorce, he told them, come back in two days.
After the hearing, Mr. Issa dropped his head, conceding that finances were tight and that he didn’t give Ms. Amadou all the little gifts she would have liked.
“But that wasn’t in the marriage contract, to give her presents,” he said.
“I’m tired of coming here,” he huffed. “I’ve decided.”
Two days later, the couple arrived at court from opposite sides of the street, parting the crowd of observers to sit on the sidewalk before the judge.
“You told us to come back if we couldn’t work it out, so we’re back,” Mr. Issa said. “Now what do we do?”
The couple went about the tedious process of publicly divvying up their belongings — salt, spices, plates, a pitcher used for washing before prayers. The judge said that Ms. Amadou would have sole custody of their son until he was 7, and that Mr. Issa would pay for the child’s meals for the next two years.
“No problem,” Mr. Issa said.
The couple signed the divorce papers, and the judge pounded each page with an official stamp.
“Is this good for you?” said the judge, turning to Ms. Amadou. “I think this is a relief for you.”
She nodded, a wide smile spreading across her face. Ms. Amadou plans to marry again, to someone who loves her back.B:
复试三中三计算【而】【在】【本】【节】【还】【有】2【分】56【秒】【时】，【保】【罗】【抢】【断】【之】【后】【长】【驱】【直】【入】，【突】【然】【击】【地】【传】【球】，【将】【球】【交】【给】【身】【后】【的】【格】【里】【芬】，【后】【者】【接】【球】【后】【以】【一】【记】【战】【斧】【式】【扣】【篮】【结】【束】。 【西】【部】【众】【将】【的】【表】【现】【更】【为】【活】【跃】，【首】【节】【就】【以】39-28【领】【先】。 【首】【节】【快】【船】【两】【名】【球】【员】【抢】【走】【了】【风】【头】，【第】【二】【节】【则】【是】【公】【牛】【队】【双】【子】【星】【的】【天】【下】。 【本】【节】【还】【有】3【分】48【秒】【时】，【罗】【斯】【将】【球】【砸】【到】【篮】【板】【上】
【走】【到】【宫】【门】【外】，【李】【初】【珺】【对】【守】【卫】【亮】【出】【腰】【牌】，【守】【卫】【接】【过】【腰】【牌】【端】【详】【再】【三】，【看】【了】【看】【李】【初】【珺】，【道】：“【请】【稍】【后】【片】【刻】。“【说】【罢】，【便】【从】【开】【了】【一】【条】【缝】【的】【宫】【门】【闪】【身】【而】【入】。 【传】【信】【人】【将】【层】【层】【消】【息】【传】【递】【而】【过】，【终】【于】【落】【到】【烈】【炎】【王】【宫】【大】【殿】【之】【外】。 “【王】【上】，【云】【起】【使】【者】【求】【见】。“【一】【个】【老】【宫】【人】【垂】【身】【而】【问】。 “【哦】？“【烈】【迟】【宏】【拓】【挑】【了】【挑】【眉】。 “【请】【他】【进】【来】
【郑】【坤】【想】【了】【想】，【还】【是】【有】【些】【不】【放】【心】，【又】【多】【交】【代】【了】【几】【句】。 “【你】【这】【几】【天】【先】【忍】【忍】，【我】【让】【人】【对】【外】【说】【你】【病】【了】，【你】【也】【别】【往】【外】【跑】，【这】【件】【事】【情】【切】【莫】【和】【任】【何】【人】【提】【起】。【还】【有】【你】【那】【几】【个】【小】【姐】【妹】，【没】【什】【么】【用】【的】【就】【别】【联】【系】【了】，【尤】【其】【是】【那】【个】【关】【家】【的】，【她】【今】【天】【一】【早】【还】【来】【找】【你】，【看】【起】【来】【就】【不】【是】【什】【么】【好】【事】。” “【知】【道】【了】，【我】【也】【没】【把】【她】【当】【什】【么】【朋】【友】，【只】【不】【过】【她】复试三中三计算【并】【不】【知】【道】【远】【方】，【辉】【耀】【修】【女】【的】【联】【盟】【中】【居】【然】【还】【发】【生】【了】【这】【么】【多】【事】【情】，【这】【边】，【捞】【够】【了】【的】【林】【逸】【辰】，【已】【经】【准】【备】【打】【道】【回】【府】【了】。 【是】【的】，【打】【道】【回】【府】。【他】【在】【这】【里】【赚】【的】，【已】【经】【足】【够】【多】【了】！ 【他】【自】【己】【强】【化】【完】【之】【后】，【接】【着】【是】【血】【族】【们】，【大】【面】【积】【地】【使】【用】【深】【渊】【血】【池】【进】【行】【强】【化】。【这】【帮】【吸】【血】【鬼】【用】【完】【之】【后】，【血】【池】【几】【乎】【是】【肉】【眼】【可】【见】【地】【淡】【了】【一】【点】！ 【接】【着】【是】【黑】【骑】
【百】【水】【水】【立】【刻】【伸】【出】【手】，“【阵】【法】—【格】【挡】。” 【格】【挡】【住】【了】【那】【个】【妖】【怪】【之】【后】，【百】【水】【水】【看】【到】【那】【个】【妖】【怪】【处】【于】【邪】【化】【的】【状】【态】，【它】【的】【身】【上】【散】【发】【着】【阴】【暗】【的】【气】【息】，【双】【眼】【通】【红】。 【这】【是】【一】【邪】【化】【后】【的】【狼】【妖】。 【青】【阑】【看】【到】【这】【个】【妖】【怪】【的】【时】【候】【不】【禁】【感】【慨】，“【它】【倒】【是】【挺】【帅】【气】。” 【百】【水】【水】【听】【到】【青】【阑】【的】【话】【后】【有】【些】【无】【语】，“【谁】【让】【你】【夸】【赞】【他】【了】？” “【阵】【法】—
“【恭】【喜】【宿】【主】【来】【到】【了】【西】【游】【世】【界】，【可】【选】【择】【身】【份】【如】【下】，【发】【布】【任】【务】【如】【下】。” “【身】【份】【一】：【道】【门】【门】【下】【正】【宗】【的】【吕】【洞】【宾】【转】【世】【之】【身】。” “【身】【份】【二】：【佛】【祖】【二】【弟】【子】【六】【翅】【金】【蝉】【转】【世】【之】【身】，【西】【游】【主】【角】【唐】【三】【藏】。” “【身】【份】【三】：【大】【妖】【通】【风】【大】【声】【猕】【猴】【王】。” “【任】【务】【一】：【加】【入】【西】【游】【团】【伙】，【成】【功】【完】【成】【西】【游】【之】【路】！【奖】【励】【三】【百】【万】【积】【分】。” “【任】【务】
【夜】【已】【经】【很】【深】【了】，【外】【面】【路】【也】【不】【好】【走】，【我】【看】【着】【阿】【姨】，【不】【觉】【有】【些】【担】【心】。【阿】【姨】【安】【抚】【似】【的】【拍】【了】【拍】【我】【的】【肩】，【便】【转】【身】【急】【匆】【匆】【地】【走】【了】【出】【去】。 【那】【是】【我】【人】【生】【中】【最】【漫】【长】【的】【几】【个】【小】【时】，【每】【一】【分】【每】【一】【秒】【似】【乎】【都】【被】【无】【限】【拉】【长】。【心】【急】【如】【焚】，【又】【无】【可】【奈】【何】——【哪】【怕】【是】【曾】【经】【面】【对】【黎】【琛】【他】【们】，【我】【都】【未】【曾】【恐】【惧】【如】【斯】。 【阿】【姨】【走】【后】【差】【不】【多】【又】【过】【了】【两】【个】【多】【小】【时】，【出】